“Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish!” – JOBS
“Stay Hungry, Stay Foolish!” – JOBS
The main insight around height and weight are fairly obvious. They are extensions of the wardrobe. How a women carries her weight and showcases her height are reflections of how she feels about herself. Much like some of the previous points I’ve covered.
All this boils down to how someone feels and how can you relate to it.
Well, this will conclude my 10 part series on the fundamentals of the story someone can tell by:
I would encourage everyone to review the aforementioned in depth. I’m going back into the lab and will continue educating players around the Contact phase of the game.
Enjoy your weekend people and remember “Always be closing.”
What this jewelry really is communicating is basically how open-minded a person can be.
A nose ring usually means she’s fairly liberal and open-minded.
A tattoo above her lower back screams, “I’m a good time.”
A tongue ring means, well, you should know that one. Lol.
All the above are done to express something to the world. They are symbols of shifts from the status quo. She wants to be different and unique by decorating her body and that’s a key ingredient for a skilled player to be mindful.
You are a different experience in her mind. And the interaction/relationship you develop is something unique. So you need to position yourself as such.
Show her you can be as unique and a shift from the status quo by sharing a rebellious experience. If you do not have tattoos or piercings, keep in mind you will be under suspicion of being too normal/average so its critical through your actions or stories you demonstrate that you aren’t some average Joe.
A personal favorite story of mine when encountering this type of girl is when I was in high school. I use to run with a rough crew and get into trouble. Upon telling some stories about these adventures, it immediately puts my date at ease because people normally feel most comfortable around individuals that are like-minded. The more you can relate to each others worldly experiences and beliefs, the more connected she’ll feel and the faster an intimate moment may arise.
So if you are reading this and reflecting upon your life without any crazy stories, then go out there and create one. Obviously be safe but even traveling all alone in a foreign country sleeping in hostels and meeting new people will satisfy the screening of these decorated women.
Go get it done tiger!!!
I’m going to receive Xmas cards for this insightful post!
If eyes are the window to the soul, shoes are the front door to mind. It telegraphs exactly what the person is feeling at the moment.
The first thing I scan for when I pick up a date are her shoes. This will tell me exactly the type of mood she’s in, a clue of what to expect later on and even an idea of her political affiliations. Yes I’m that good 😉
Let’s review a few options:
So be aware what she is telling you via her shoe choice. All these clues (read previous posts) are building up to create a clear picture of how to proceed to play the game correctly. If she’s agreed to spend an evening with you, that means you’ve passed her pre-screening and will be allowed to board the plane (if you play your cards right).
Stay calm, stay in control, stay building rapport & stay ahead of the CONQUEST game!
Oh, almost forgot to mention a 4th and personal favorite category of mine. Its the “I’m so hot, i’ll wear these exotic shoes to let you know you better bring your A game.”
More on that later…
There are 7 fundamental emotions that are displayed via facial expressions: anger, fear, sadness, joy, disgust, surprise and contempt. Universally accepted as the basis of facial communication, these emotions can once more tell a story.
Let’s just take one we are all very familiar. The smile 🙂
This is the universal expression of happiness or joy. When a girl gives you a smile, we believe its an open invitation for CONQUEST.
This might be the case but we need to examine the micro-expression to truly understand what she is trying to communicate.
Some smiles can mean “get lost.” Those are the half baked coy expressions that as players we all dread. The kill em with kindness move.
I’ve been out hunting at many of bars and had girls give this smile proceeded by walking off. The key is to recognize early micro-expressions to gauge if you are in friendly or hostile territory.
Also, I’ve incorporated and consciously make an effort to smile more. At the supermarket, shopping mall, campus or wherever you go, try to make an effort to smile all the time. You will see the results instantly 🙂
You will be surprised at the reactions and opportunities that open up. Its like the law of attraction, if you spread joy, it will come back to you. Also, smiling reflects a solid and healthy mental state. So do your best young soldier to get and there and give/receive those favorable signals of interest!
Their eyes. Not to be overlooked. No pun intended.
Peering into someone’s eyes can usually initiate a certain feeling. Nothing really something super tangible but everyone has a 6th sense about a person when making eye contact.
You must learn to trust that feeling/gut instinct.
Eyes communicate intention. That’s why you see poker players wearing shades during high stakes poker matches because they don’t want to tip their hand.
This is precisely how you should approach this area. As an opportunity to gather information about the person and further understand their intent and motives in your “relationship.”
If you feel hesitant to trust that person then you will probably discover sometime in the future why that’s the case.
If you feel a certain sadness being reflected by that person’s eyes, then you will probably find some deep emotional scars in their past.
You need to learn to trust that nagging feeling in your gut that’s trying to tell you something. It usually turns out right.
In addition, you can think of your eyes as invisible hands. When you look someone up and down, its almost similar to a pat down.
Over time, you should be able to use your own eyes as a means of communication and extension of your mind/body/soul. A flirtatious glance can go a long way to communicating your confidence and desire to CONQUEST.
So pay special attention on your next AB (At Bat = Date). Look her right in the eyes and see if that soul is glowing back at you.
The good ole “birds of a feather” saying. It is for the most part absolutely true.
When you first meet a girl, try to identify her type by researching or meeting her “crew.” This process is usually simple via Instagram or Facebook. Do a little detective work and see how her friends roll.
Are they the party type? The crew that is enamored with material items? Adventurous/Raver type? Athletic/Outdoors type? Cultured/Art walk type??
No matter what the type you must adapt if you want to play the game. This requires you being flexible and open-minded and subject to change. Keep in mind, this is the game. You aren’t trying to spend the rest of your life with these ladies. You are seeking unique experiences and then keeping it moving.
It will be fun and enjoyable. For example if you bump into the nature crew, schedule a date where you take her on a hike somewhere cool. Take pictures and enjoy the scenery.
If you bump into the fashionista, hit the mall and have her help you pick out a cool new shirt. She’ll love to play the stylist role and you will see her in her element.
For my specialty, the party girls, this will require several posts to break down but i’ll give you an introduction to the end game. You need to take her out for the TIME OF HER LIFE. I mean, UBER black, stroll straight into the club, drinks, dancing and even a dope afterparty should be part of the agenda. You will be the ringmaster for the evening.
A typical night for me started with dinner reservations around 9 p.m. I would invite a group of friends and sometimes she would too. After a few hours of getting to know each over some Sushi, we would hit the clubs. Now this is important. You must KNOW somebody at the door so there is no delay to your entry. She wants to feel special so you must start building relationships with bouncers and door guys now so when you are on your big date, you get smooth entry into the club. NO DELAYS.
Once inside, you need to be THE MAN. Drinks on you. Lead her to the dancefloor and claim your prize at the end of the night. Well, what are you waiting for! The night is young gents!!!!!
This is definitely for the more advanced players in the game, but body language is a huge ocean of information that can be gathered to determine the best plan of attack.
The main thing to note with body language is that it is another language. Learn to pick up on her movements and start to collect a host of meanings assigned to those movements. You will be able to adjust more quickly and change your game real-time to match the opponent.
Also, keep your body language strong and confident at ALL TIMES. Even if you are unsure about something, act self-assured and figure it out later. As you get more practice, you simply become more confident. I recommend 100 at-bats (dates) to really understand the process of CONQUEST. Get to it!!!
We could spend weeks on this one subject but I’ll give you my learnings as clearly and concisely as possible.
What a women wears is a billboard for how she feels about herself and her self-esteem. It defines who she is and where she is going.
When you see a well dressed women in a business suit with high heels and her hair pulled back, you think, that’s a women going places. You instantly respect her as a professional women. The same is true when you see a women at the bar with a super duper mini skirt, hooker heels & layers of makeup. You instantly register EASY TARGET.
The fact of the matter is we live in a world of appearances. We judge based on the 5 senses until further notice. People are guilty until proven innocent.
So how does this help you in the game of CONQUEST?
Its similar to poker. All the players are gathered around the table trying to pick up the slightest clues, tails & patterns. In the game of life/CONQUEST, its the same deal!!! You are trying to pick up clues about your target so you can best relate to her and her experiences. Everyone is most comfortable with people like themselves. The more you can appear to be like the lady of your desire, the closer you will get to your goal.
As with most things, there is a balance. I’m not advocating you start shopping or making hair appointments, I’m suggesting you deeply understand your target as much as possible. Almost like a BFF. But you always must maintain that masculine edge and keep your focus in mind. You aren’t there to make a new best friend, you are there to win the game.
So on your next date, ask yourself, what story is she representing by her outfit. Is she a free spirit? Is she an alpha female not taking anybody’s mess? Is she saying, hey boyz, its open season???
You need to piece together the clues and then act upon it. The best poker players are able to pick up on the subtle clues and reactions that lead to edges. You need to do the same. You can only get better with experience. Unfortunately, I can’t type your way into mastery so go out there and get em player!!!!
I outlined the major points in my last post:
Over the next 10 days, I’m take each one of these topics and go to into greater detail.
Stay tuned (Freudian slip 😉 )